How To Reduce Your Costs
Increased interpersonal conflict, ineffective communication and emotional reactivity will increase your divorce costs, regardless of the divorce process you choose. The more professional intervention you need to resolve your divorce matters, the more you'll pay.
We recommend you both attend our Divorce Options® Webinars ideally twice – it’s a lot of information and it’s easier to take it all in the second time. Different professionals present each time. Then we suggest you attend our Divorce Doctors Webinar and come prepared with tons of questions – ideally those that may be relevant to others as well. Understanding the basics and reading through this website means you are not paying professionals top dollar to provide basic information. You’re coming into the process far more prepared, less anxious and better equipped to make critical decisions. (See additional Cost-Reduction handouts on our Resources page.
Divorce is not just a legal process. It is an emotional, relational, financial and legal process. Unlike most attorneys, VCD’s Divorce Attorneys don’t try to wear all the divorce “hats” themselves. Trained to work in interdisciplinary collaborative teams, our attorneys are better equipped to pull in less expensive specialists to handle the financial and emotional/communication matters of your divorce. Remember, all VDC professionals are trained in both Mediation & Collaborative Practice.
A “neutral” financial specialist may start even your litigated divorce by gathering and organizing a couples’ financial data, for attorney use in later negotiations. (All divorce processes legally require financial transparency!) The Financial Neutral helps build trust and eases tensions. As transparency occurs, anxiety, adversarial positioning and defensiveness diminish. At the same time, a licensed therapist can be helping the couple to mediate their parenting plan (custody agreement) to be later included in your final divorce agreement (“Judgment”). Even in litigation, meeting together first with a neutral, financial specialist trained in both mediation and collaborative practice can save you both considerable attorneys’ fees.
Financial specialists and licensed therapists are typically less expensive than attorneys, and can lay the groundwork for your divorce, regardless of the process you choose (litigation, mediation or collaborative divorce), and thereby reduce attorney fees. Your attorney(s) can negotiate the division of your assets and debts and write up the final Judgment (divorce agreement).
Furthermore, you do NOT have to trust one another to ensure financial transparency in a Mediation or Collaborative Divorce! This is especially true when your professionals are collaboratively trained (ask us more about this!). It is also a myth that you must already be civil and respectful to mediate effectively. Many high-conflict couples divorce using Mediation or Collaborative protocols, provided they have adequate professional communication and financial support.
We reduce your costs by having our professionals each handle their specific areas of expertise, skill and training and by eliminating any duplication of efforts. Our independent professionals are equipped to work together efficiently to get you to the divorce finish line.
* For a list of Divorce Modest Means Resources, please see our Resources page, to download our handout.